A Daughter and A Mom

Being the Queen of the house needs a lot of everything. Everything involves patience, open mindedness, wisdom, fairness and understanding. I didn't figure it out when the only role I play is being a daughter. But now that I also took the role of a wife and a mom, every inch of life's perspective should be more mature now.

I thank my mom for teaching me the things I need to know. Eventhough I was a stubborn kid and all I cared about was myself, I'm so glad that she shouts when I did an unexpected wrong move. It made me realize that I must be careful and think twice before doing or saying anything bad. Everytime she spanks me whenever I tend not to listen, it makes me get back to reality that in this world, there's a corresponding punishment for every sin you'll commit. I thank her big time for being by my side when I really need someone to guide me eventhough I thought I was right all the time. I thank her for she stayed firm and acts as if she can't be moved to teach me the hard way because it contributed to my substance as a person. I also thank her that she did not allow Papa to go abroad for greener pasture because now I already know the reason by heart... by standing on her shoes already as a Mom and a Wife.

Mama did not like the idea of being distant with the love of her life. I thought it was a selfish decision to make but now that I had witnessed a family without a Mom and Dad, their children really sucks. They suck because they think they can do everything on their own, believes that what they want should always happen and think that they're right whatever explanation you'll try to explain. To think that they're only at the middle of their teen life to act this way. Those kids' life is a mess that every people they're living with holds a grudge on them. Who can we blame?

Working abroad to have a better future is a good idea... if and only if the person who wants to work there is single, or if married, the foundation of the relationship with their better half is strong enough to withstand the storms life would bring, or if a single dad/mom, your eldest should be mature enough to handle the responsibility of a parent, or you still have your parents (your child's grandma/grandpa) to guide your kids. If not, NEVER EVER leave your children to anyone even your siblings or closest friends. I assure you, it is not a good idea and I can attest to that.

My mom carries a responsibility she shouldn't be carrying on her shoulders because of a person who only thought of herself and her future and not anyone's life. Yes she said she wanted to bring everyone in the States to have a better future like her and her kids(because she's divorced), but who needs that? It wouldn't work for us because my mom never raised us to be materialistic and what we just wanted is a happy home. Mom raised us to dream of having the things we want but as we grab it unto our hands, we should be a real family along the way -- having a husband who discipline the kids and really acts as the provider, having a mom who shows her heart on her sleeves but with firmness on the lessons she wanted her children to grasp and learn, having children who should grow along the way with parents as their guide -- because at the end of the day, it's not how rich you've become that matters it's how you molded the children God had bequeathed you.

I look up to my mom until this very day for she never runs out of lessons for me to learn. Even hurt and carrying everybody else's responsibility, she still told me not to loathe. She said that time would come that she will also realize her mistake and how her distance made her daughters so materialistic that made them steal money from us (yes, they took my 1,800pesos) and then get our sympathy to make up stories to fool us with the lost bills inside the house -- A 20pesos putted on the table, they said it was blown by the air(After a day of investigation it took Mom a couple of hours of spanking until she told the truth that she put it under the sink). It's not all about the amount of money they took, but the lies and making everyone a fool by the reasons they're making up to save their asses.

Seeing my mom's hardship makes me want to throw their belonging and bestow my wrath by getting them out of our house. But with all the lessons and realization my mom had thought me, they have been lucky enough. So until now I can't do anything but stay obedient and painfully watched how HER children prick thorns in my Mama's heart.

I'm reading: A Daughter and A MomTweet this!
Add Post To: